Comments for The Gratitude Journal http://www.thenicoleshow.com/gratitudejournal My journal of gratitude and the power of deliberate manifestation. Sat, 20 Jun 2009 05:22:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on Healing From Heartache by nicole http://www.thenicoleshow.com/gratitudejournal/gratitude/healing-from-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-3781 nicole Sat, 20 Jun 2009 05:22:35 +0000 http://www.thenicoleshow.com/gratitudejournal/?p=554#comment-3781 At the time I wrote this entry and had this dream I was in a VERY different emotional space. I was heartbroken, I was depressed, desperate and hanging on by any shred of false hope I could muster. I would tell myself that he was going to call me any day and come back to me because I was the one who deserved him. In retrospect, that's all I was deserving of because he chipped away at my self-esteem for 3 years that's all I felt I could get and was worth. Much needed healing and nurturing was needed and done on my part to move on from this experience. I'm so thankful that I am no where near that emotional place I was back in September/October. At the time I wrote this entry and had this dream I was in a VERY different emotional space. I was heartbroken, I was depressed, desperate and hanging on by any shred of false hope I could muster. I would tell myself that he was going to call me any day and come back to me because I was the one who deserved him. In retrospect, that’s all I was deserving of because he chipped away at my self-esteem for 3 years that’s all I felt I could get and was worth. Much needed healing and nurturing was needed and done on my part to move on from this experience. I’m so thankful that I am no where near that emotional place I was back in September/October.

]]> Comment on Healing From Heartache by nicole http://www.thenicoleshow.com/gratitudejournal/gratitude/healing-from-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-3780 nicole Sat, 20 Jun 2009 05:18:35 +0000 http://www.thenicoleshow.com/gratitudejournal/?p=554#comment-3780 Jenn, what it comes down to is that you have been so beaten down emotionally with everything that you have gone through with this guy and all the years you have invested in him you keep hoping it's all going to pay off for you. You have invested in him, put your dreams into him and he doesn't feel the same way. He is damaged goods and damaging you and that other girl. Ask yourself this.. WHY on earth would you want to start a family with a man that worthless? This is about winning, it's about proving your self-worth by winning over her and getting him. He has demoralized both of you and left you with nothing. Your worth is measure through him and you can't find any for yourself because you keep thinking that he defines your worth. It takes the strength to let go once and for all and to KNOW without a doubt that you CAN attract someone 100 times better than this very sad person. You have to take the time to get to know yourself and be by yourself. To know what you want, and what you don't want. Stop letting him feed off of you and stop this sick cycle of co-dependency. Nobody that loves themselves would stay in a situation like this and if they can't love themselves, they cannot love another. Jenn,

what it comes down to is that you have been so beaten down emotionally with everything that you have gone through with this guy and all the years you have invested in him you keep hoping it’s all going to pay off for you. You have invested in him, put your dreams into him and he doesn’t feel the same way. He is damaged goods and damaging you and that other girl.

Ask yourself this.. WHY on earth would you want to start a family with a man that worthless? This is about winning, it’s about proving your self-worth by winning over her and getting him. He has demoralized both of you and left you with nothing. Your worth is measure through him and you can’t find any for yourself because you keep thinking that he defines your worth. It takes the strength to let go once and for all and to KNOW without a doubt that you CAN attract someone 100 times better than this very sad person.

You have to take the time to get to know yourself and be by yourself. To know what you want, and what you don’t want. Stop letting him feed off of you and stop this sick cycle of co-dependency. Nobody that loves themselves would stay in a situation like this and if they can’t love themselves, they cannot love another.

]]> Comment on Healing From Heartache by Jenn http://www.thenicoleshow.com/gratitudejournal/gratitude/healing-from-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-3779 Jenn Wed, 17 Jun 2009 19:54:30 +0000 http://www.thenicoleshow.com/gratitudejournal/?p=554#comment-3779 I can relate a little bit to your situtation. I myself too have been taken adavantage of I guess put I have had blinders on. I have been dealing witht his guy going on 4 years he has cheated on me I thought I was strong stop talking to him for a lilttle while then boom he has wesseled his way back in time after time I have forgiven him then when I finally put my foot down he is now with another woman but him and I are still intimate and communicate it's so hard to let go cause i feel if he lets me go then I can really move on but why do I give him so much power when I stop talking to him and avoid his calls or messages he doesn't stop I know I desrve better now the girlfriend is pregnant she knows about me she is a big problem we go back and forth real enemies and we are fighting over a dog he wants both of us and I just dont understand he should be with me Im a good girl hard worker and is faithful I need answers now the girl is pregnant and Im so depressed it hurts so bad but i stopped talking to him for a month since I have found out i havent' been intimate before that for like 3 months i broke as usual now we are back at it and i feel like I should be the one please having a family I have always been there for him and I was there first please help me let go I can relate a little bit to your situtation. I myself too have been taken adavantage of I guess put I have had blinders on. I have been dealing witht his guy going on 4 years he has cheated on me I thought I was strong stop talking to him for a lilttle while then boom he has wesseled his way back in time after time I have forgiven him then when I finally put my foot down he is now with another woman but him and I are still intimate and communicate it’s so hard to let go cause i feel if he lets me go then I can really move on but why do I give him so much power when I stop talking to him and avoid his calls or messages he doesn’t stop I know I desrve better now the girlfriend is pregnant she knows about me she is a big problem we go back and forth real enemies and we are fighting over a dog he wants both of us and I just dont understand he should be with me Im a good girl hard worker and is faithful I need answers now the girl is pregnant and Im so depressed it hurts so bad but i stopped talking to him for a month since I have found out i havent’ been intimate before that for like 3 months i broke as usual now we are back at it and i feel like I should be the one please having a family I have always been there for him and I was there first please help me let go

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