Learning from life lessons Day 87

Day 87 of season 4 and it’s perfect how I found an article written by MarySPaul whom I’ve started to follow on twitter about learning from a butterfly. So much of what I have been going through internally (this week in particular)  is about learning to listen to my own voice and not the voices of others, even though they have nothing but good intentions at heart. Trying to protect or prevent someone from making a choice that you think can hurt them is actually not letting them learn and grow. It’s definitely not allowing them to think for themselves. It says, they don’t know better. I feel that we are the only ones who know better for ourselves as it is our internal wants and our feelings that matter when it comes to making decisions and there are certain experiences in life that we need to have to make us grow as spiritual beings.

I love my friends and the members of my family who tell me how to live my life, who I should chose to be involved with romantically, what I should do for a living, how I should handle money etc… But these choices are mine. If say for example my mother does not want to hear about the difficulty I am having with money at a particular time then she would be doing herself the favor by telling me so. A lot of the time I am just venting and trying to figure things out for myself. It’s far more healthy to have a dialog with someone than to talk to yourself about it lol.

So perhaps this is where I come to that point in the road where I stop going to mommy to run all of my decisions by her, even when mostly it’s just in passing. Because I’ve realized what is happening is that all it does is open the door to invite criticism and opinions that I don’t want. When you make a decision for yourself and someone doesn’t like the decision you’ve made for you and they challenge it, it can be very damaging to a person’s trust in themselves.

I choose to think for myself and have the courage to persevere through all of my fears and make the best decision for me based on how I feel and not how others think I should feel and do.  Hope you enjoy this week’s video about my progress so far.