Friends With Benefits

Now, before anyone gets excited with the title of this post, this is in reference to the new movie out with Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis.  I watched it tonight and it was actually pretty good. I like Mila Kunis and I think her and Justin have good on-screen chemistry. So there is the whole premise of the movie. This idea that two people of the opposite sex thinking that they can mix friendship with sex. The kind of friends who spend a lot of time together and getting to know each other, sharing their innermost personal feelings about things that they don’t share with other people. They eventually develop feelings for each other. The boat gets blown out of the water. This simple agreement that two grown people enter in to seems to never quite work out the way that they intended it to. Yet they keep doing it again and again, screwing themselves up emotionally more and more with each try.  It would seem that if you saw this movie you would think that the writers and the directors had some direct line to tap into your personal heartbreak and experiences because how else could they capture exactly how you feel? Or could it be that people involved in those very same situations are going through the exact same emotions? Maybe all of the single twenty-something and thirty-something women have the exact same wishes and dreams for themselves. Wonder why? The answer to that is for this post but it’s not by coincidence.

 

We live in a world where people are emotionally damaged and emotionally cut off from themselves.  They literally separate themselves from their own emotional guidance system. I understand it, it’s a survival tactic. Lately I have been confronted with a ghost from my past and he is a pretty nasty one. He’s the kind of ghost who forever sucks the life out of you because he lost his soul. He doesn’t have any idea of how to find it and more importantly is that he doesn’t want to.  Frankly, I’m sick of being haunted by this ghost.  Since I worked a lot on healing my own emotional damage it is no real surprise to me that whenever I see this person that the wound opens up. I do not know why I always perceived a higher connection with this individual but I did. I had hoped that time would severe it and for the most part it has. That actual connection is in fact severed but it just seems that as far as the internet goes, one cannot escape certain people unless you really make a conscience choice to not mingle in places that could potentially be a shitting ground for the other person. So that is what I have chosen to do.

 

I have no desire to close myself from my emotional centers ever again no matter how badly things might hurt when it comes to friendships, relationships, betrayals or otherwise. So the only thing that is logical and more downstream is to remove myself from the situation. It is the path of least resistance. And that is how you exorcise these ghosts, you cut off their life support.